The sense of suffering, loss and anxiety comes from threat of also losing the story the “i” presented . The part that is afraid to be forgotten happens to be also the part that will cease to exist the moment a decision is made to put an end to the story and persona it has created to fulfil a fake sense of want or need.
'I could never loose you, I never had you'.
no one will ever have no one else; only the illusion of them, the temporary play of make-shifts egocentric identities that relate to forms more than they can relate to substance, THAT can be possessed, for a while, with no other purpose that self-interest and temporary gratification to a thought.
Love cannot be toxic. Its an oxymoron. Love itself cannot be anything but Love.
But the “i”, the story, the determined process of thoughts and emotions can not only provide such illusion of love but even distort the ‘real thing’.
Why? Because the ‘need’ to ‘do’ or ‘obtain’ overrides the actual central force of the simplicity of being, of being ‘in’ love. This cannot be anything but toxic, be it in a ‘light’ level where ‘love’ its temporary and eventful, or be it that it becomes an incessant burden of projected blame and unfulfill-ness. Its a story, usually unilateral, fighting and resisting at every moment in order to exist, to keep providing content to itself, therefore assuring survival.
The layers of pre-made strategies will seek ‘success’ by doing, by accumulating either things, people or experiences; but it is never enough, it is never over, therefore, it is always bound by itself, by its circular thought process that shifts, changes and adapts thinking that is the real way to ‘get’ to someone or something.
But it is always haunted by its own fake-ness, it needs to keep on moving constantly, keep on thinking, keep on creating feelings, emotions, scenarios, stories, etc. Its tire-less for the simple reason that may our consciousness grasps the distraction it presents, its whole existence will be unfounded and inhalation would be imminent.
There is a presence conscious of all this.
There is a spark of stillness and acceptance. It is. It does not need the validation nor it fears destruction, for it is, simple and true.
Who we are its not a real question, for we are, period.
However, who we are not seems to be the key to opening a much truthful state of acting consistently and not ‘despite’ ourselves. We are not our stories, we are not our thoughts. We are not the constant gratification-seeker voice in our heads.
Yes, It is part of us, its the masks we use to ‘re-late’ to the world, but taking it as who we are and allowing it to take control will only lead to a cycle of empty and temporary egotistical self-driven goals that deprive us of growing, of loving, and being loved and above all from ‘being’ in our lives.
Perpetuation of stories, fear of ‘changing’, need to apologize or express gratitude or love its another game played by the “i” that still seeks to shape itself according to other’s regard. Self-steem construed by what others perceive of us its but an illusion. If the ‘I’ depends or hangs on ‘last words said’, a moment, an event, or an action, or even another human, then its clearly not about who we are, but who we have built and what story we have created.
The permanence of being is not to be taken lightly. Nor I believe its a road one starts for and of enlightenment, for if its ‘because’ a goal, then we need to revise the layers of ourselves taking part in it.
It is not a race, it is not a degree, its not a level; its a conscious and constant awareness of the presence of the moment, the actual and only true freedom of our existence, not bound by stories of the past or expectations of the future, not carrying intelligence but wisdom, not seeking to ‘fulfil’ a want or a need, but to see that we are already full to begin with.
And its true, there is nothing wrong with being full.
“Attachment to things or people drops away by itself when we no longer seek to find ourselves in them. A fake sense of self worth is that we think we have in the eyes of others; how you are seen by others becomes the mirrors that tells us what we’re like. The sense of loss & anxiety when there’s a disturbance between the thing or person and the ‘i’ clearly proves attachment since the real threat is the loss of made up identity. May there is awareness of it, then the attachment is no longer total, but a construed fiction of the world of thought.”—Slowly understanding.
….. she would always tell me how the world was filled with magic. Despite what realities were out there, the eternal spark of humanity never faded. As the world became her strategy, she kept her eyes open to the subtle underlining goodness that cannot hide its presence. The beauty of simple things remind her that there is always something to hold on to that needs no fiction, no lies.
Truth is not something she lost hope in. I know because she would let me know. As the thick vegetation of the forest gave her comfort, she also found company without misery. And the world was filled with music for a while. Being was not coincidental, but very much meant to be.
She carried that in her sleeve, for whenever she needed it. She would dream of smiles and balloons, as they would fly without a route, with the wind giving them the natural direction of things. They will land she thought, knowing that all bubbles burst.
In response to previous post on Religion/Superman from @Bonniebell
Goodmorning, today I must disagree! I have had much time and interest in the study of Wicca. This “way of life”, (not considered a religion, so perhaps there is the loophole), spends its time regarding the world, space, universe, essences of everything around us as part of us. In this way of life, we never separate from that unified energy and therefore are not isolated from it. In these other religions and such, there is a unified standard of punishment, leading us to believe we must earn our way back into the favor of our creator or else we will blink out at the end. I believe neither is true, we are simply an extension of all that is living. This is our reality, though others exist, which we are able to touch and percieve when we shed the human shell we have bound ourselves into. In that way, we are in a condition of sorts, however, we are able to ”free” ourselves, our spirits, at any time and this is something we have all chosen. (Again, I restate this is my opinion).. but most of us, through conditioning or lack of understanding/memory, believe we are trapped, punished, etc. In reality, this humanity, in itself is a gift of a new sort. We are unused to it, we may or may not experience it again and again, perhaps some of us are more practiced than others, and therefore more content. I don’t know these things certainly. What I do believe with all the soul of my being is that I was before and I will be after, and I do have a great gift in every breath I take to experience joy, fear, even pain. Tasting food, kissing another soul’s skin, loving, growing children, seeing someone laugh or cry, etc. All of these are things that are not exchangeable and well worth every sacrifice I have decided to temporarily make to be here, a human, on this deteriorating planet, which is part of the natural cycle of things. It’s not sad, we just cling to it, because it’s what we know. It’s a shame we waste, we haven’t prolonged it’s use, but like any other living thing, it must change, move on, and so shall we.. but we will never die, nor shall the planet, we have lived before, we will live again, in what condition? We shall see.. but we are always part of the great cycle of energy, not isloated, only placed temporarily and fortunately in these human jackets :)
“And how will you inquire into a thing when you are wholly ignorant of what it is? Even if you happen to bump right into it, how will you know it is the thing you didn’t know?”—Nemo’s Paradox of Inquiry, Plato.
In our current state of things, I believe healing is underrated. To deny the fact that we are somehow not scarred or affected by situations in our lives might just be the greatest show in the world. The ultimate hypocrisy.
The world is in need of empathy and love. And we are not ready to even give it to ourselves.
Sacred things hold incredible power. Sacred should be the things we hold up to the proper standard of what they deserve to be. The purity of clarity, the ability to love.
That should start within. If we invest energy in patching voids and denying truths in order to love, then inevitably that love will be tarnished, tainted. Not to say that love is not as it is. The problem, I believe, is the filters and layers we make it pass through and endure.
What we carry is what we have decided to bring with us. What we are is sometimes hidden, or tucked away. No one but ourselves did this. Then we expect to be understood, liked or even loved.
Destined to fade will be the infatuation provided by an image or an idea of someone, a contingency of beauty that sometimes does not actually coincides to what it is.
To love, I believe is to pass that, to love is sacred. To see someone for what they are, may they decide to show you. If they do, already they deserve for one to be more than what we pretend to be.
To heal, to face ourselves, to bring ourselves forth and take responsibility for our lives, our actions, the way we affect others and what we expect is the only way to truly love, and be loved.
If not, you are subjecting others to love someone you are not. Consequently, you will forever be haunted by the ghost of the layers that hide you. Most importantly never feeling the love that its directed towards you, hence not being able to love back under all the insecurities and fear.
Love thyself. Know thyself.
To be whole in spirit. Then to love those who you feel love for. As they deserve it.
Anything else, anything less is and will be or become toxic.
Isn’t it the most common thing?
As if we still have not passed the egocentric theories of mankind, where the self is at the center of what we could perceive as a storm.
However even false, since the ‘eyes’ of the storms tend to be calm.
So resistance is based on the fact that existence is trying to control and therefore ‘fight’ & ‘keep at bay’ forces that ‘come our way’.
Exhausting to say the least, but more importantly, absolutely futile.
Not to say that one should not ground the sense of identity and hold on to what we are in order not to loose ourselves in the continuous flow of ‘life’.
May one decides to let go of resistance and perceptions of struggle, is equally important - I believe- to accept the non-instant ‘fix’ of just making this a mantra. To not just ‘embrace it’ and think all will be immediately ok & therefore -again- just base egocentrically the nature of our lives.
If the chosen path is one of conscious yet spiritual understanding, I find indeed time & continuos effort is the journey in itself.
Rewards are not such if we hunt them constantly; they are the ends of strategies that use means that lack in themselves the interest of the heart, of the soul.
Resistance could only bring lost efforts, lost time, wasted energy & ultimately distraction from where we long to be.
A letter to Canadians from the Honourable Jack Layton
August 20, 2011 Toronto, Ontario
Tens of thousands of Canadians have written to me in recent weeks to wish me well. I want to thank each and every one of you for your thoughtful, inspiring and often beautiful notes, cards and gifts. Your spirit and love have lit up my home, my spirit, and my determination.
Unfortunately my treatment has not worked out as I hoped. So I am giving this letter to my partner Olivia to share with you in the circumstance in which I cannot continue.
I recommend that Hull-Aylmer MP Nycole Turmel continue her work as our interim leader until a permanent successor is elected.
I recommend the party hold a leadership vote as early as possible in the New Year, on approximately the same timelines as in 2003, so that our new leader has ample time to reconsolidate our team, renew our party and our program, and move forward towards the next election.
A few additional thoughts:
To other Canadians who are on journeys to defeat cancer and to live their lives, I say this: please don’t be discouraged that my own journey hasn’t gone as well as I had hoped. You must not lose your own hope. Treatments and therapies have never been better in the face of this disease. You have every reason to be optimistic, determined, and focused on the future. My only other advice is to cherish every moment with those you love at every stage of your journey, as I have done this summer.
To the members of my party: we’ve done remarkable things together in the past eight years. It has been a privilege to lead the New Democratic Party and I am most grateful for your confidence, your support, and the endless hours of volunteer commitment you have devoted to our cause. There will be those who will try to persuade you to give up our cause. But that cause is much bigger than any one leader. Answer them by recommitting with energy and determination to our work. Remember our proud history of social justice, universal health care, public pensions and making sure no one is left behind. Let’s continue to move forward. Let’s demonstrate in everything we do in the four years before us that we are ready to serve our beloved Canada as its next government.
To the members of our parliamentary caucus: I have been privileged to work with each and every one of you. Our caucus meetings were always the highlight of my week. It has been my role to ask a great deal from you. And now I am going to do so again. Canadians will be closely watching you in the months to come. Colleagues, I know you will make the tens of thousands of members of our party proud of you by demonstrating the same seamless teamwork and solidarity that has earned us the confidence of millions of Canadians in the recent election.
To my fellow Quebecers: On May 2nd, you made an historic decision. You decided that the way to replace Canada’s Conservative federal government with something better was by working together in partnership with progressive-minded Canadians across the country. You made the right decision then; it is still the right decision today; and it will be the right decision right through to the next election, when we will succeed, together. You have elected a superb team of New Democrats to Parliament. They are going to be doing remarkable things in the years to come to make this country better for us all.
To young Canadians: All my life I have worked to make things better. Hope and optimism have defined my political career, and I continue to be hopeful and optimistic about Canada. Young people have been a great source of inspiration for me. I have met and talked with so many of you about your dreams, your frustrations, and your ideas for change. More and more, you are engaging in politics because you want to change things for the better. Many of you have placed your trust in our party. As my time in political life draws to a close I want to share with you my belief in your power to change this country and this world. There are great challenges before you, from the overwhelming nature of climate change to the unfairness of an economy that excludes so many from our collective wealth, and the changes necessary to build a more inclusive and generous Canada. I believe in you. Your energy, your vision, your passion for justice are exactly what this country needs today. You need to be at the heart of our economy, our political life, and our plans for the present and the future.
And finally, to all Canadians: Canada is a great country, one of the hopes of the world. We can be a better one – a country of greater equality, justice, and opportunity. We can build a prosperous economy and a society that shares its benefits more fairly. We can look after our seniors. We can offer better futures for our children. We can do our part to save the world’s environment. We can restore our good name in the world. We can do all of these things because we finally have a party system at the national level where there are real choices; where your vote matters; where working for change can actually bring about change. In the months and years to come, New Democrats will put a compelling new alternative to you. My colleagues in our party are an impressive, committed team. Give them a careful hearing; consider the alternatives; and consider that we can be a better, fairer, more equal country by working together. Don’t let them tell you it can’t be done.
My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.
All life experiences are but a mere consequence of our internal life design. To say that external factors can invade the sacred space we carefully craft is to inevitably deny our own responsibility for our existence. Not to say that the world and its inhabitants do not play an important role in how we decide to behave, for that will also be a denial of our inter-existence. However, the distances we project between our emotions, our actions and others are nothing more than our self imposed rules that sometimes we unfairly bestow upon others.
There is no running away from ourselves. It does not matter how far we can make our eyes see the horizon we craft, since –it seems- most of the time we are always standing in the same empty space, giving our perspective the value it does not hold in order to achieve meaning-less goals that reassure and falsely validate our sense or protection and success, and in extreme cases our survival.
Pain I have discovered is but a distraction. It’s a symptom that can be patched, but if one does not address the root of the suffering it will just become a nation of isolation that will eventually provide the comfort and policing of our own borders.
There is no harm but that that we inflict upon ourselves. We can decide at any given time to twist and bend stories in order to find the perfect excuse to ‘move on’. But there is no movement in that, on the contrary there is nothing but dwelling.
Fascinating enough, the only light that one can shed upon darkness is the love we are willing to feel, but if that love is caged by fears and boxes upon boxes of past premises or pre-conceived ideas, the object of your affection will have no choice but to dismiss it.
Failure might not be a comfortable place, but it’s the starting ground for self reflection, it’s the perfect opportunity to re-member, to embrace the finely ethereal real state of being. Blame its just a game. It’s the card most use to ‘pay’ for the credit of their loss. But really, just like our current system of things, that would only bring debt, an intangible weight that we will carry along in all of life’s experiences.
Finding, or better yet, recognizing our own underlining self-fulfilled and made up prophecies and fetching back all the expectations we have put in others instead of ourselves might just be the true path of being able to cross beyond the borders of loving, so those we love can feel it as purely as it is felt from its source.
The only lonely place we inhabit its that built of our inability to look within and then reach out purely to what we long for.
“Yes, for those of us who manage somehow to cope with our mortality. The very meaninglessness of life forces man to create his own meaning. Children, of course, begin life with an untarnished sense of wonder, a capacity to experience total joy at something as simple as the greenness of a leaf; but as they grow older, the awareness of death and decay begins to impinge on their consciousness and subtly erode their joie de vivre, their idealism – and their assumption of immortality. As a child matures, he sees death and pain everywhere about him, and begins to lose faith in the ultimate goodness of man. But, if he’s reasonably strong – and lucky – he can emerge from this twilight of the soul into a rebirth of life’s elan. Both because of and in spite of his awareness of the meaninglessness of life, he can forge a fresh sense of purpose and affirmation. He may not recapture the same pure sense of wonder he was born with, but he can shape something far more enduring and sustaining. The most terrifying fact about the universe is not that it is hostile but that it is indifferent; but if we can come to terms with this indifference and accept the challenges of life within the boundaries of death – however mutable man may be able to make them – our existence as a species can have genuine meaning and fulfillment. However vast the darkness, we must supply our own light.”—Stanley Kubrick on the meaning of life.
Straight truth shooters with no fear of embarrassment. Kindred curious spirits who are amazed by the world and its inhabitants.
If a child wants attention he or she will tell you so. If they want to feel loved they will ask for it. When they are tired, happy, sad, hungry and/or sleepy they will communicate it.
How incredibly spiritual is that?
A child who is loved will forever be sure of its place on the planet. A child who is talked to and not talked at will open his or her eyes and ears to learn you. A child who knows there are infinite possibilities of being will be free to be. A child who is treated like a child and its not made prisoner of unfair expectations will enjoy his or her age to the fullest, giving way to soul & character development.
For children, life is a series of moments. They have this so clear that each moment is lived in the present tense. If you can grasp the infinite wisdom in that and decide to join them, you will experience a gratifying harmony between souls who seek nothing but share the love that we as adults long for.
There is a beautiful way to give children the validation they need; Just remember they are not adults. Its simple, but its true. They are children.
If you give yourself the chance you will see how much they are really teaching us.
We were all children. We all had childhoods. As much as we think we have left it far behind, we forget that it is in essence the building blocks of the way we learn to ‘be’ and to ‘act’. The way we relate to the world started there, the way we perceive ourselves and hence the way we perceive others and the world.
So next time you are with children, remember they are the diamonds, we are the rough.
“How’s an intelligent person supposed to react when he discovers that he’s merely the product of a corrupt and evil system? How do you continue to live after you learn that your every breath, every dollar you pay in taxes, every baby you conceive and love will only perpetuate some evil system?”—
“I must remind you that starving a child is violence. Suppressing a culture is violence. Neglecting school children is violence. Punishing a mother and her family is violence. Discrimination against a working man is violence. Ghetto housing is violence. Ignoring medical need is violence. Contempt for poverty is violence.”—Coretta Scott King (via nirvikalpa)
“For decades, the American financial system was stable and safe. But then something changed. The financial industry turned its back on society, corrupted our political system, and plunged the world economy into crisis. At enormous cost, we’ve avoided disaster and are recovering. But the men and institutions that caused the crisis are still in power, and that needs to change. They will tell us that we need them, and that what they do is too complicated for us to understand. They will tell us it won’t happen again. They will spend billions fighting reform. It won’t be easy, but some things are worth fighting for.”—
“Experiments conducted by researcher Herbert Krugman reveal that when a person watches television, brain activity switches from the left to the right hemisphere. The left hemisphere is the seat of logical thought. Here, information is broken down into its component parts and critically analyzed. The right brain, however, treats incoming data uncritically, processing information in wholes, leading to emotional, rather than logical responses. The shift from left to right brain activity also causes the release of endorphins, the body’s own natural opiates—thus, it is possible to become physically addicted to watching television, a hypothesis borne out by numerous studies which have shown that very few people are able to kick the television habit. It’s no longer an overstatement to note that the youth today that are raised and taught through network television are intellectually dead by their early teens.”—
He’s quite accurate. Most oppression succeeds because its legitimacy is internalized. That’s true of the most extreme cases. Take, say, slavery. It wasn’t easy to revolt if you were a slave, by any
means. But if you look over the history of slavery, it was in some sense recognized as just the way things are. We’ll do the best we can under this regime.
Another example, also contemporary (it’s estimated that there are some 26 million slaves in the world), is women’s rights.
There the oppression is extensively internalized and accepted as legitimate and proper. It’s still true today, but it’s been true throughout history. Take working people. At one time in the U.S., in the mid-19th century, working for wage labor was considered not very different from chattel slavery. That was the slogan of the Republican Party, the banner under which northern workers went to fight in the Civil War. We’re against chattel slavery and wage slavery.
Free people do not rent themselves to others. Maybe you’re forced to do it temporarily, but that’s only on the way to becoming a free person, a free man, to put it in the rhetoric of the day. You become a free man when you’re not compelled to take orders from others.
That’s an Enlightenment ideal. Incidentally, this was not coming from European radicalism. There were workers in Lowell, Massachusetts, a couple of miles from where we are. You could even read editorials in the New York Times saying this around that time. It took a long time to drive into people’s heads the idea that it is legitimate to rent yourself. Now that’s unfortunately pretty much accepted. So that’s internalizing oppression. Anyone who thinks it’s legitimate to be a wage laborer is internalizing oppression in a way which would have seemed intolerable to people in the mills 150 years ago.
”—Liberating mind from orthodoxies - Noam Chomsky (via noam-chomsky)
“Oh. & another thing: isn’t it perfectly convenient to have riots that damage communities just about the time when things might get worse for the common people? As the world rises in peace, this last ‘violent’ ‘spontaneous’ event will stop any eagerness to take the streets & will probay give way to ‘much needed’ new laws to ‘ensure’ security.”—Hm.